Me(BW): 1970WH(caveman): 1970Married June, 2000DDay#1 June 8, 2014 EADDay#2 12/05/14 confessed to sex before polygraphStatus: just living my life
Superiority
I read something in another post that got me thinking. The post was about the BP resisting moving forward. Someone said something about how the BP has the moral high ground in the beginning of R, and needs to check themselves as things progress so they don't stay in that position of superiority.
I am there. 11+ years after dday, I still feel superior to my H in almost every way. The only thing that I don't think I'm superior to my H in is looks. I think we are equal in that department.
Maybe if my H weren't so slow in changing himself I wouldn't feel this way. He's been trying, and it's so hard for him. He's not introspective. He's not a thinker at all.
While I understand why he behaves the way he does (foo), I don't understand why anyone would behave that way. He's a grown man who's ego is so fragile that he's emotionally frozen in helpless child mode. I think that's what keeps me feeling superior. It seems so weak to me. At some point, we all have to realize we are the masters of ourselves.
40 comments posted: Tuesday, January 6th, 2026
