Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 1:26 AM on Monday, October 13th, 2025
Just thinking about you. Hope you're doing okay.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
tushnurse (original poster member #21101) posted at 10:27 PM on Monday, October 13th, 2025
Well the fun never stops. No diagnosable cause yet for the pain and hand/arm numbness. But the CT found a fairly large thyroid nodule that needs to be worked up. So having ultrasounds for the breast/arm pain this week and thyroid next week. Had infusion of Zometa last week and knocked me on my arse for 2 full days.
Spouses brother also was diagnosed with colon mass that may need surgery to remove the GI that scoped him wasn't brave enough to try via scope. So calling upon my old TushNurse skills to help direct him in next steps.
Good news is my mom has stabilized and brain is better.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
deena04 ( member #41741) posted at 12:20 AM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2025
Big hugs. That is a lot to deal with. Remember to give yourself grace because it’s always easier said than done.
Me FBS 40s, Him XWS older than me (lovemywife4ever), D, He cheated before M, forgot to tell me. I’m free and loving life.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 4:33 PM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2025
Tush… I haven’t posted on your thread recently, but I have been checking in on you. Of course it seems you are doing everything just as you should. I’m sorry for all of the irritating, side effects, etc. that you must tolerate, but if anyone knows how to minimize them, it is you!
I’m especially sorry about your numbness in your hand and arm. I have quite a bit of that, but I believe it’s due to carpal tunnel… And that certainly is less of an issue than what you’re dealing with.
Lots of good thoughts and prayers coming your way! ❤️
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 5:06 PM on Tuesday, October 14th, 2025
Ugh quite a year so far. Hope they found the source of that pain/numbness and the other issues are non-issues. And glad you can put your ass-perience to good work for your family member ;-)
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
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tushnurse (original poster member #21101) posted at 2:27 AM on Thursday, October 16th, 2025
Thyroid issue is just a plain old nodule. Nothing to fret over.
Still dont have an answer on the hand/arm numbness next up an MRI of cervical spine. Which I suggested at the beginning but they had to rule out lymphedema.
Had Zometa infusion last week wich will be every 6 mos to prevent bone loss. But man that thing kicked my rear.
My mom seems to be doing better. Brain bleed is shrinking.
BIL is awaiting next appts to lay out next steps. So wait for that.
Fingers crossed and prayers said things are settling.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 9:40 AM on Saturday, October 18th, 2025
Fingers crossed and prayers said things are settling.
Fingers crossed and prayers said.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 3:55 AM on Monday, October 27th, 2025
Fingers crossed and prayers said.
Me, too.
(((hugs)))
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
tushnurse (original poster member #21101) posted at 12:20 AM on Tuesday, October 28th, 2025
Thanks friends.
I go for MRI thos week.
Have to reschedule an echo. Went to the wrong location for it first time.
Pain still present and have swelling in Armpit and lateral breast. But improves with massage but always nagging.
My friend with dementia is on hospice. Visiting her frequently taking her things she loves like fountain sodas and sweets. My mom seems better but parents going on trip this week woth friends. Hope their time isn't ruined from blow off of Melissa. Thats a doozy of a storm.
Just keeping on keeping on.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 12:11 AM on Wednesday, November 5th, 2025
I'm always hoping for the best for you.
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
tushnurse (original poster member #21101) posted at 7:41 PM on Sunday, November 9th, 2025
Thanks Unhinged.
My MRI reveals that my cervical spine is a mess. Pretty much expected that though since every level of my lumbar spine is a mess.
So now pretty sure this is a pinched nerve or nerves. Starting PT this week hopefully.
Had a lot of on site meetings this past week which led to the need to move therapy dates.
My dear sweet friend is nearing her end. She couldn't work a straw yesterday so not sure if she was stoned from the morphine or if her brain is that shut down. This was also the first visit I wasn't sure she knew who I was. But was happy to hold hands and get forehead kisses.
Took my Grand to see my parents this morning and my mom has ZERO short term memory but is really happy, and feels great.
My son is having real life adulting struggles and we are pushing for trade school. Setting up times for him to shadow friends in different trades.
Impending leadership shake up at work but im just rolling with the punches as much as I can.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
ThoughtIKnewYa ( member #18449) posted at 5:34 AM on Tuesday, November 11th, 2025
I hope you're able to start PT and find some relief soon!
My son is having real life adulting struggles and we are pushing for trade school. Setting up times for him to shadow friends in different trades.
What kind of struggles is he having?
Our kid started struggling after she moved on-campus to finish her college career. (We had her start her education at a community college because I just didn't think she was ready for the full college experience after high school graduation. It turned out to be the right thing.) She let me know and I already had some suspicions as to what might be "different" about her, so I put her in touch with a therapist. She went through extensive testing and was eventually diagnosed with Level 1 Autism and ADHD. Through therapy, she gained some helpful skills for dealing with her challenges, such as Executive Functioning. She graduated and has lived on her own ever since she left for college and she holds down 2 jobs. She still has struggles, but they don't seem as overwhelming now.
I hope your son is able to navigate his way through the struggles he's having.
Keep on hanging in there!
sad12008 ( member #18179) posted at 4:36 AM on Saturday, November 15th, 2025
tushnurse, I'm rarely "on" here any more, but dropped by. So very sorry to hear you've been going through a shit storm. Sending you loads and loads of healing mojo!!!
You can't fill a cup with no bottom.
WhatsRight ( member #35417) posted at 10:26 AM on Sunday, December 28th, 2025
Tush…
No wisdom here…just have you in my thoughts/ prayers. ❤️
"Noone can make you feel inferior without your concent." Eleanor Roosevelt
I will not be vanquished. Rose Kennedy
The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 10:52 AM on Sunday, December 28th, 2025
Praying for you Tushnurse!
You have provided so much support and help here at SI. Hoping 2026 is a better year for you.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
tushnurse (original poster member #21101) posted at 10:01 PM on Sunday, January 4th, 2026
Thanks for the ongoing prayers and well wishes and honestly asking g they keep coming.
Woke up new yrs day woth a bad tooth cant be seen until tomorrow so been pretty miserable for 4 days.
Also figured out my own damn self what the pain post surgery is. Condition called cording which is basically scaring around lymph tissue that follows the path. Seeing a PT this week. Hoping for exercises and massage to relieve it.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
number4 ( member #62204) posted at 11:56 PM on Sunday, January 4th, 2026
Condition called cording
Yea, I was warned about that ahead of time. My Pilates teacher (at the time of my surgery) was also a PT, so she was the one who told me, and I think I then read about it more online. I was pretty proactive in my mitigation efforts, but I still had a tiny bit of cording. So my new Pilates teacher (after we moved I found a new one) is also a PT, so six months post-surgery she did an evaluation and helped me work through it. I fortunate enough that I also get regular massages with someone who works in the same office as this Pilates teacher, so they could communicate with each other.
I was told that what's most important is tackling it within the first year post-surgery... that you'll have the best results; after a year, it becomes more difficult to break up the scar tissue. Two+ years later I have full range of motion, but when my massage therapist lifts that arm straight up over my head to get at the lats, I can tell that side is tighter than the other. But the range of motion is there, so I'm thankful.
Me: BWHim: WHMarried - 30+ yearsTwo adult daughters1st affair: 2005-20072nd-4th affairs: 2016-2017Many assessments/polygraph: no sex addictionStatus: R
Shehawk ( member #68741) posted at 2:04 AM on Monday, January 5th, 2026
Prayers for healing and peace. And may the good you have put out into the world return to you 10 fold, Tush.
"It's a slow fade...when you give yourself away" so don't do it!
Superesse ( member #60731) posted at 3:57 AM on Monday, January 5th, 2026
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 5:53 PM on Monday, January 5th, 2026
Mojo sent. Sorry about your tooth and the cording. I'm really sorry there's no PT for toothaches, or at least good insurance.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
