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After two years of this nonsense…..I am seriously considering a move for 6-12 months to Portugal! I used to live in Europe so it feels like home. I need a break, quiet alone time and I’m seriously ready to just go! Anyone else done anything like this?

I went to Bali for a month :-) I could only leave for a month but I found a change in latitude helped change my attitude. My problems did not go away but I spent the time doing LOTS of yoga, meditating, reading, exploring, swimming, and seeking spiritual experiences. It reminded me of the opportunities and living I still had ahead of me. It was nice not to see all those triggers every day. But there were moments of profound loneliness and I worked through those, which was helpful.

It was healing, but I also worked hard while there to heal.

Oh I love Bali! Been there twice …..but for me too far away long term….I have duly children in NYC and DC. I’m pretty excited about this

I've spent many nights scrolling through properties in Portugal. Sounds exciting.

I recently returned from Portugal. My wife and I were considering moving there. Lovely country but decided it was not what we were looking for. The best part was a Buddha garden adventure. It was breathtaking! We lived in Ecuador for around 7 years. I loved it there. I honestly recommend living in different cultures. It expands a person’s perspective.

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So now I'm watching videos on moving to Portugal.

I have thought about moving out of the US for a few years. My teenagers will be going to college in about a year, so I can't do anything just yet.... There's a lot of info out there about moving to a different country. Will you be a "digital nomad?" If not, depending on the country, you may have to leave every 3 months. Other options for staying long term are investing in real estate in Portugal or having an EU passport. You also have to show that you have income/assets. Have you been to Portugal for any length of time? Might be a good idea to take a trip there first. I fully support you - sounds like a lot of fun!

Yes I lived in Europe for 8 years and thank u im aware of visa requirements

I say, Do it!!! I am moving back overseas once I get my internship and certifications put of the way. Probably Germany or Austria, but I also speak Spanish. Maybe Spain. Or, I'll learn a new language. I cant wait to get away for a few years. I'll eventually come back, but I need a break from the US for a little bit.

I lived in Germany for 8 years…my favorite. I wish it were more "affordable" and had an easier visa process…it’s quite challenging actually. Portugal much easier rap for those 50+

Booked my scouting trip - so excited. Going in March

Had an acquaintance iny profession recently retired and they moved there just in the past couple of months.
This person is a positive life is perfect type poster so their posts this far have been nothing but wonderful and pics are amazing. They also have significant health issues so will be interesting to see how they do when the shit hits the fan. Their partner is in even worse health so could be interesting.

I also have an acquaintance that went to another European country for a family wedding they ended up in the ER for dehydration bit worked up to rule out a heart attack. They were asked to pay a whopping $345.00 for the stay and testing. After a planned surgery talking about moving there permanently. Also a retired medical professional.

Neither speak the language of the country. Which i find frightening and yes I know most Europeans speak multiple languages including English but still find not being able.to converse with others a scary thing.

Some tips from a colleague who actually moved to Portugal a couple of years ago and is now remote-working from there.

Both in Spain and Portugal you have communities/villages that are focused on expatriate living. You have communities with look-alike houses, street after street. Look great, communal pool and all that... Only... they are mostly vacant except for 1-3 months per year. It can lead to a lonely, isolated, monastic, life.
Not only that, but services are limited. That restaurant down the end of the street might be closed for half the year. The nearest grocery-store might be in the village next to the next village. A three-mile walk to the next irregular bus-stop. A car isn’t an option but a necessity. You will notice a lot of properties for sale, because after 2-3 years the boredom and banality of this type of "holiday" wears thin.

My colleague ended up buying an apartment in a seaside town on the south coast, close to the Spanish border. It’s a mid-size hub town (a municipal administrative center) with a train station and all the relevant services. There are seasonal fluctuations, but the town doesn’t shut down once the main tourist season is over.